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​"Hate cannot drive out hate. Only love can do that." - Martin Luther King

A ROAD TO FORGIVENESS

Are you ready to let go? Are you ready to finally FORGIVE and settle the debt? The Lord keeps nudging and you have either avoided it, fooled yourself, or chosen to not surrender (yet). Maybe you don't know how or you convinced yourself that if you FORGAVE it simply made what they did, okay. While not understanding that FORGIVENESS doesn't make "it" okay, it makes "you" okay!
Most people know they are supposed to FORGIVE but they do not know how. All of that is about to change. We developed a FORGIVENESS journey you can walk that will give you the tools and help you to genuinely FORGIVE.

WHY  FORGIVE

Most likely you found yourself on this journey leading to FORGIVENESS because you are invested in receiving freedom from your tormentor. The question you might currently be wrestling with is why do I have to FORGIVE? FORGIVENESS is not an option if you want to be set free. UNFORGIVENESS carries a severe penalty for all believers. Allow us to point you to scripture that will explain the importance of why FORGIVENESS is the key to your freedom:  Matthew 18:22-35
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven.
23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.
26 “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.
28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.
29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’
30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.
32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the tormentors to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”
Did you catch that revelation? As a child to the King, you have received the greatest form of FORGIVENESS through the blood shed on Calvary by our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. You will never receive a higher form of FORGIVENESS than when you were born-again and made into a new creation. The good news of your salvation is that until you take your last breath on this earth, you are allowed to continually make a withdraw on God's mercy, love, and grace which covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8). Yet, since you have been lavished with this highest demonstration of FORGIVENESS, ought you show others a similar FORGIVENESS? How can you ask your Heavenly Father to FORGIVE your life-long list of sins, but refuse to extend mercy to your enemy like the man in the parable above? In that case, Jesus clearly states in Matthew 18, "He will instead hand you over to your tormentors." 
Which leads us to why you are here in the first place...to be set free from these evil tormentors through deliverance. Are you starting to see why FORGIVENESS is so important?

At this ministry, we have learned through plenty experience that when a person comes into the deliverance with any blatant or hidden UNFORGIVENESS, offense, bitterness, resentment, hate, revenge, (etc.) towards others or even themselves; it is an automatic legal right for the enemy. When we command the spirits to leave in Jesus name, they will not go because they have permission granted through UNFORGIVENESS. We have experienced demons that speak out of the person and tell us they do not have to leave because the person has not genuinely FORGIVEN.
Which leads me to another statement made by Jesus in Matthew 6:14-15 that must not be conveniently ignored or shoved under the rug.

"If you FORGIVE other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also FORGIVE you. But if you do not FORGIVE others their sins, your Father will not FORGIVE your sins." 

Why aren't Christians talking about this verse or the severe ramifications if we do not FORGIVE others?
Read that sobering verse again without doctoring it. Take it for what Jesus is clearly saying to all believers. If you do NOT FORGIVE those who have sinned against you, abused you, rejected you, abandoned you, betrayed you... THEN THE FATHER WILL NOT FORGIVE YOU!
I don't know about you, but this is bone chilling. As Christians we rest in the knowledge of Christ FORGIVING us while glossing over this blatant truth. The fact of the matter is you can actually be a Christian and not FORGIVEN by the Father according to Matthew 6. This is why FORGIVENESS is so important. The enemy found a loop-hole and he is riding it all the way to the "blood bank". If your enemy can persuade you to walk in any form of UNFORGIVENESS, then according to the scriptures your Heavenly Father will not FORGIVE you regardless of the blood shed for you by Christ. Let that sink in! When you truly grasp this revelation, you will genuinely stop at nothing to FORGIVE your enemies or those who have wronged you. There is simply too much at stake. Beloved, we are told that this is how the Kingdom of Heaven operates (Matthew 18:23) whether you like it or not. Those who have ears to hear, let us hear.

We ask the people who come to us for deliverance to deal with all UNFORGIVENESS and offense before their session, otherwise the deliverance will be delayed. Please consider this instruction and do not take it lightly.

LETS GET STARTED

Follow the path to embark on this life changing journey with God by following every arrow to each video below (do not skip the videos, watch them in order). Take as much time as needed. Watch the revelation of FORGIVENESS unfold and be reminded why you finally agreed to let go and FORGIVE. Be inspired... ​

FOLLOW THE ARROWS TO FORGIVENESS

"To Forgive Is To
Set A Prisoner Free
And Discover 
That Prisoner Was You"

Pray This Prayer:

Lord, I have avoided taking the time to learn how to truly forgive those who have wronged me and release them from their "debt."
Please forgive me for holding onto any unforgiveness and offense known or unknown. I repent and ask for your mercy. I have made the decision to no longer place my feelings above the Truth. For your Truth says, "Feelings are deceitful above all else and desperately wicked, who can trust it" (Jeremiah 17:9-10)?
I ask the Holy Spirit to guide me into all truth regarding the unforgiveness, bitterness, offense and resentment that lays dormant or hidden in my heart.
Through this journey, I ask you to bring to light what is hiding in the darkness and reveal to me who I need to forgive and then grant me the strength to release and forgive them.
I ask for you to remove my heart-of-stone and replace it with a heart-of-flesh. Give me the grace/compassion I need to move forward in forgiving my enemies so that I may ultimately be free. You would never ask me to do something you wouldn't equip me for. I trust you and your leadership. It is by your strength that I will accomplish this. In Jesus name, AMEN! 
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​Watch video number one (below). DO NOT SKIP FIRST VIDEO. It is the most important video in the whole forgiveness series.
Becoming Love by Dan Mohler

Forgiving Her Daughter's Killer

Video by Matthew West

ASK YOURSELF:

If Renee can forgive Eric for killing her daughter, what holds you back from forgiving?

Forgiveness
By: Matthew West

Song by Matthew West
It's the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those who don't deserve
It's the opposite of how you feel
When the pain they caused is just too real
Takes everything you have to say the word
Forgiveness, forgiveness

It flies in the face of all your pride
It moves away the mad inside
It's always anger's own worst enemy
Even when the jury and the judge
Say you've got a right to hold a grudge
It's the whisper in your ear saying set it free

Forgiveness, forgiveness
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Show me how to love the unlovable
Show me how to reach the unreachable
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness

It'll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what its power can do
So let it go and be amazed by what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is you
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Forgiveness, forgiveness
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Show me how to love the unlovable
Show me how to reach the unreachable
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness
I want finally set it free
Show me how to see what your mercy sees
Help me now to give what You gave to me
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Forgiveness, forgiveness
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Make A List

Teaching by Laura Seifert with Yes Ministries
​(Session 2)

Ask These Questions...

  1. Ask the Lord who is on your list of unforgiveness?
  2. Make a list and write it down.​
  3. How is bitterness, offense, unforgiveness helping you?
  4. How is bitterness, offense, unforgiveness hurting you?

Forgiveness is NOT...

  1. Blowing it off and pretending it was not that big of a deal
  2. Excusing their behavior
  3. Ignoring or forgetting it
  4. Being silent and covering it up
  5. Letting enough time pass by so you can get over it
  6. About my feelings
  7. Having to verbally tell the person you forgive them

Five Steps Of Forgiveness

​STEPS ONE & TWO
Teaching by Laura Seifert with Yes Ministries
​(Session 3)
1.  Tell God what happened, be specific, pour out your heart to God.
2.  Allow the full emotion of it to be felt in front of God.   
Teaching by Laura Seifert with Yes Ministries
​(Session 4)

STEPS THREE & FOUR
3.  Cancel the debt, they no longer owe you anything.
​4.  Accept them as they are, you are powerless to change them.

STEP FIVE
Teaching by Laura Seifert with Yes Ministries
​(Session 5)
5.  Risk, open your heart, let down your guard and trust again.

​Forgiving Sexual Abuse

"Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who have sinned against us."   - Matthew 6:12
Testimony by Joyce Meyer with Enjoying Everyday Life Ministry 

Forgiving Physical Abuse

Video by Delafe Testimonies

#1 Testimony of Abuse

#2 How He Forgave
Video by Delafe Testimonies

How To Truly Forgive

Podcast by Joyce Meyer with Enjoying Everyday Life Ministry

RECAP...

  1. Pray for them
  2. Help them
  3. Do not gossip about them
  4. Do not seek pity from others on behalf of your offense

TESTIMONY TIME...

Video by One For Israel

NOTES...

Just because you experience certain kinds of feelings towards a person who has wronged you, does not mean you have not forgiven them. Forgiveness is not a feeling, it is a choice. 
Forgiveness is an intentional decision to offer the following actions towards the person you choose to forgive, regardless of how you feel:

1.) Pray for them. 

Matthew 5:43- "Love your enemies, pray for those who persecute you."

Luke 6:28- "Pray for those who mistreat you."

Romans 12:14- "Don't curse those who persecute you, pray that God will bless them."


2.) When you see they have a need, offer to help them.

Proverbs 25:21-22- "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of conviction on his head and the Lord will reward you."

Luke 6:28- "Bless those who curse you."

3.) Do not gossip about them and slander their reputation.

Psalm 101:5- "Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly, I will destroy."

Proverbs 6:16-19- Six things the Lord hates and is an abomination to him, one of them is to slander and gossip and sow discord among brothers.

James 1:26- "If anyone thinks he is religious but does not bridle his tongue, this person's religion is worthless."
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4.) Do not seek pity from others by gossiping to people about what they did against you. 

Ephesians 4:29- "Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, and may it benefit those who listen."

Matthew 12:36- "On the day of judgement people will give account for every careless word they speak."

TIPS TO FORGIVE

Notes...

  1. In order to forgive, you must have a genuine desire to do what God wants you to do. That single desire will carry you through.
  2. Look up scripture on forgiveness. Meditate on the truth of God's ways regarding forgiveness. 
  3. Contemplate what Jesus did for you on the cross. Consider that God is not asking you to do something he has not already done himself.
  4. Make an intentional decision to forgive.
  5. Understand that hurting people, hurt people.
  6. Forgiveness does not always mean reconciliation of the relationship. God is not going to ask you to bring a person back into your life that will be physically, verbally, or emotionally abusive. Boundaries are important.
  7. Stop talking to other people about what that person did to you. The more you talk about it, the more you are picking at the wound that is trying to heal.
  8. The quicker you forgive, the easier it is.
  9. You can forgive someone and not feel any different when you are around him or her. That does not mean you have not forgiven them. It is how you treat them that defines your decision to forgive, not how you feel.
  10. Forgiveness is a matter of desire. If you really want to do what God is asking you to do, you will find a way to do it. No matter the cost.
  11. The reason God requires forgiveness is out of his great love for us and to see us free.
  12. Be careful about your thinking. Don't ever think you CAN'T do something that God has told you to do. He would never ask you to do something that is impossible. With Christ, forgiveness is possible.
Video by Joyce Meyer with Enjoying Everyday Life Ministry

Forgive Yourself
Your identity is NOT found in what you did!

Three Easy Steps To Forgive Yourself

By PursueGOD Video

Testimony- Forgiving Multiple Abortions

Video by Delafe Testimonies
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It's Time To Be Free

Wait! Don't go until you watch this last video (song)... 

Song by Jason Gray
"Even the sparrow knows, HE holds tomorrow."

FAITH IN ACTION  

An Act Of Faith...

  1. Write out a letter (prayer) to God and tell him who you finally forgave and tell him you are releasing them into his care.
  2. Staple it to the list you wrote earlier with the names of people you held in unforgiveness and offense. 
  3. Put the letter and list inside a helium balloon and let it go and prophetically release them to the Lord.
  4. If you can't get a balloon, then place the list and letter in an envelope and put it in the mailbox addressed to Jesus with no address or return label. Let it go!
Take a deep breath in and exhale it out. You did it. You made the commitment to God and ultimately to yourself to forgive and cancel the debt you had against others and yourself. You made the decision and you followed through with your promise. The Lord honors your dedication to forgive.
We equipped you with several tools to accomplish forgiveness, now it is up to you to firmly establish this into your daily walk. These tools can be carried with you throughout your life. They will never rust or get old. They have a lifetime warranty. To give and receive forgiveness is the greatest gift you will ever gain. Share it with others. Teach what you have learned. Pay it forward. Be the Light. Freely you received, now freely give. 
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